New Year's Resolutions?

I usually reflect on the past year on December 31 and think about all the best things that had happened to me. I check my last year’s New Year’s resolutions and think about whether I’ve lived up to my goals and expectations. If I realize that I completely forgot about one or some of my resolutions I usually set them up again for the upcoming year. Adding to this, I set some new goals for the following year. I wanted to write this post to tell you about my new year’s resolutions and to hear about yours. If you're behind the schedule and still haven’t decided on his or her 2020 resolutions I challenge you to set them today. January is just an extension of the first day of every New Year. There’s still time to think about what you hope to achieve and be as the new year starts.

1. Make mistakes. Without making mistakes, how are we supposed to learn? Text your ex and find out how lousy you feel after it and learn to never text him again. Give in to your unhealthy habit to get a short-term relieve but then notice how bad it makes you feel the next day and don’t do it again. Take a challenging course, study hard, but dare to make a mistake. It’s okay to fail sometimes and it will make you study even harder. Sometimes we learn more from a mistake than from getting it right the first time.

“I hope that in this year to come, you make mistakes. Because if you are making mistakes, then you are making new things, trying new things, learning, living, pushing yourself, changing yourself, changing your world. You’re doing things you’ve never done before, and more importantly, you’re doing something.” –Neil Gaiman

This quote inspired me to step out of my comfort zone and try to be the best version of myself. Everybody makes mistakes. Accept yours and accept who you are. Which takes me to my second New Year’s resolution.

2. Get to know yourself. I’m 21 and many people think that by now I should have a fairly clear idea of who I am, what and who I like or dislike and what I like to do. But they don’t know that in my 21 years I haven’t had the time to try out everything. I’ve never gone to a trampoline park, I’ve never gone sailing, I’ve never tried dancing salsa in a club. So how would I know if these are the things that make me happy? That’s why I want to try new things. Go to a bar by myself and see if I can make friends.Go to ballroom dance lessons and see if I like it. Make the first step and talk to a professor that I admire at my university. Get a part-time job that I actually enjoy. Because only by trying out new things we can get to know ourselves better. So let 2020 be a year for new things and for all the firsts. Dare to try.

3. Spend time with the people you love. Whether this means family or friends, I have to make time for them. In the 21st century, when everybody is always running to be somewhere else and always in the middle of something, we need to take some time to be with the loved ones. You can always find thousands of excuses why not visit your family today or why not invite your friends over for a fun night but the real art is seeing your way through the excuses. Believe me, it will do you good to turn away from work and worries for a few hours. Besides, we can work best when we’re well rested.

4. Decide what you want to do with your life. This one is very specific to me but I’m sure it can be applicable to most of you as well. In 2020, I have to decide where I want to go to graduate school and what I wish to study. I’ve been tempted to apply to the US colleges and as for now, I would like to pursue a carrier in clinical psychology. The application deadline is December 1, which still gives me some time to make the decision. I’ve had to make a similar decision about three years ago and I decided to stay and study at home, in Slovenia. Nevertheless, during the past two years and a half I’ve had some regrets and doubts on whether I made the right decision. This could be life giving me another chance to make the right decision.

So decide what you want to achieve in the following year. Breathe in. Breathe out. Think about what's important to you. Do you like your job? If not, do something about it and find a different job more suitable to your talents and hobbies. Do you always feel stressed? Watch videos on YouTube on how to relieve stress and learn some relaxing techniques to apply in the morning, when you come home from work or before you go to sleep. Do you want to start exercising more regularly? Go to that local pilates club, it will do you good. Or start running. Whatever it is, remember that the start of something new is always the hardest. But you have to start somewhere.

Let me know what New Year’s resolutions did you make? Do you think you’ll be able to stick to them? Get back to me because I want to hear your stories and perspectives on all the New Year’s fuss.

XX, Ajda